I have entered a couple of romantic relationships in the past. Actually, I'm already in a relationship today though I feel like that it's becoming shadier by the day. Of course I'm still hoping, but I shouldn't make any great expectations.
If there's something common among these relationships that I've had, it's that I had this certain sense of insecurity that my loved one will just go away. Of course I never showed this insecurity. The relationship had to go away because of other reasons. But up to this day, I am hoping that the insecurity shall also go away. I want to be more confident in the relationships that I become a part of.
I know that this already removes any credibility that I will have regarding the matter, but just let me reiterate the words that I always here from a good friend. According to her, when you are in a relationship, you should be open. You should be willing to put down some of those personal barriers that you once had as a single person.
When you put down your personal barriers, it is natural to feel insecure because you're actually very exposed and vulnerable. There's no sure fire way of removing the insecurities, but if you really are in love, you should be willing to put your entire trust in your partner. Without this trust, either you end up the relationship immediately, or you live an entire life that is full of suspicion.
I hope I become able to exert this level of trust soon enough. I know that, with this move, I am already subjecting myself to the potential hurts a relationship may give, but I guess everybody subjects himself/herself to this kind of feeling once in a while. When you're in love, accepting this possibility is already second to natural.
