Each of us has goals, dreams, and aspirations that we want to achieve. Someday, near the end of our lives, the fulfillment of our life goals is one of the most important measures by which we measure the experience we've had in the course of our lifetime. What was our purpose? Have we accomplished that purpose?
But can you believe that some of us among here are actually afraid of success? Some people unknowingly coax it to be the fear of failure, when in fact, it is actually success that they fear. It's one of the most paralyzing fears out there. Can you believe that? I mean, we all want to meet our goals, so why fear it?
There are many explanations. The most obvious reason is that reaching our goals is a complicated process. We have to deal with a lot of issues and, at times, we have to make a lot of sacrifices on our way to the road to success. This may mean a more tensed relationship with the people around us or probably other people whom we have to grab some chances from just to further our own cause.
Another probable reason why people fear success is that one becomes open to criticism. When you're on top, everybody else just won't stop. Even one negative comment amidst a sea of positive criticisms already feel like a failure in itself. Some of these people who are afraid of success do not want the heightened expectations that come along with accomplishments in life.
Then there is, again, the sense of purpose. Now that the numero uno life goal is already fulfilled, what is there left to be done? What will my life turn out to be if the big goal or project that once defined who I am is now finished?
So how do we deal with this fear of success? There are many approaches. One reason why people tend to lose relationships with other people on their way to the top is that they don't have the time to socialize and mingle. This should not be the case. No matter how difficult the road up is, it is important that you make time for other people. You should make time to catch up with them and renew your relationships.
Furthermore, this reluctance to be negatively criticized is the result of perfectionism that arose during one's rise. The key is to allow yourself to fail once in a while. Allow yourself to suck and make mistakes. By doing this, you open yourself to negative criticism and you open yourself to further growth.
And about the next project? There will always be something new, my friend. There will always be a new adventure to take on. Just relish success in the meantime.
